Facebook Don’t Kill My Vibe

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Hooray! You’re engaged. If you are anything like the millions of the newly engaged on social media you can’t wait to share your news and update your relationship status. Well you before you hit share on that status, here are examples of how Facebook can kill your wedding planning vibe and ways to avoid them.

Your family or close friends find out on Facebook.

I love seeing posts announcing engagements and not just because I am a wedding planner. I can feel the excitement jumping off the page and it makes me feel all warm and fuzzy. However, every now and then I come across a comment on an announcement from a close family member or friend who is just hearing the good news via Facebook. Do yourself a favor and start your engagement off on the right foot. Call your close family members and friends ahead of your Facebook announcement to share the good news. Who you define as close family and friends is completely up to you. As long as you have connected with those people you are off the hook – remember you can’t please everyone.

The dreaded “Can’t wait for my invitation.” comment on your wedding related posts.

Unfortunately way too many consider being your Facebook friend to mean they are automatically invited to your wedding. There are a couple different approaches you can take to this problem. I had a client who went through her Facebook page and added those she would be inviting to her wedding to a special friend’s list. That way when she posted wedding related statuses she could control the audience of the post so that only those invited could see it. Worked like a charm for her. Another client of mine chose not to post anything wedding related to avoid confrontation. Some brides choose to ignore those comments altogether. Sit down and think about how you’d like to handle these comments so that you are prepared when they pop up.

The “Hey girl, got your invitation, me and the fam will be there.” post, comment or message.

You spent a hefty amount of money to send out fancy invitations and pre-stamped RSVP envelopes only to have people think a Facebook RSVP will suffice. Sadly, this happens a lot. If you’re a look on the bright side kind of gal, at least they RSVP’d right??! The best thing to do in this instance is to thank them for their reply, say something to show your excitement about them attending and politely request that they mail back the pre-stamped, pre-addressed RSVP card.

What happens at the bachelorette…gets posted to Facebook naughty cake and all.

A friend decides to snap away at your bachelorette party and post the naughty pics to Facebook. Sadly, you can’t prevent people from taking pictures, but you can ask them not to post any pictures of you and to not tag you in any pics of the festivities. Another solution is to create a secret group on Facebook for all the ladies at the bachelorette party and request that all pictures be posted there. Remind your girls that your family, coworkers, boo thang are all on Facebook, the last thing you want is for them to see you humping a life size poster board of Channing Tatum…not that I’ve done that or anything…

Has Facebook killed your wedding planning vibe? What is your greatest challenge while planning your wedding and using social media?

Until next time, happy planning.